tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post5151039352709122513..comments2023-03-25T21:22:26.578-04:00Comments on Breathing In and Breathing Out: We told our therapists about spankingJigsaw Analogyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15051811184421446296noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-33296293431518970272007-04-22T12:08:00.000-04:002007-04-22T12:08:00.000-04:00We had positive experiences coming out as lesbian ...We had positive experiences coming out as lesbian except for one?<BR/><BR/>I am curious which one you are referring to... But you don't have to share in print if you don't want to.<BR/><BR/>Mostly I just wanted to comment somehow. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-42312658399583708832007-04-22T09:54:00.000-04:002007-04-22T09:54:00.000-04:00Thanks! I wrote about this here, and in other pla...Thanks! I wrote about this here, and in other places, particularly because I wanted to share some positive coming out experiences. I know how hard it is to tell people, and I think everything goes better if you can remember, while telling, that there are people in the world who <I>are</I> accepting.<BR/><BR/>Thinking about what Wintermute said, about the world not being a nice and welcoming place... I don't entirely agree with that.<BR/><BR/>The world will not fall over itself to accept you if you don't do the work of accepting yourself. And there are people in the world who are too caught up in their views to see anyone else's. <BR/><BR/>But I think coming out is more often an option than it isn't. I lived my childhood protecting deep dark secrets. As an adult, I am choosing to tell as much as I can, because there is no good reason not to, and many good reasons to be out. <BR/><BR/>Other people need to calculate their own risks, and decide for themselves how out they will be. But I am committed not only to being out, but to adding positive coming out stories, so that when someone is deciding whether or not to tell, they can hear both sides of the experience.<BR/><BR/>Plus, I have had the great good fortune to be surrounded by people who have accepted everything I have told them thus far. If it's not safe for <I>me</I> to come out, then who can?Jigsaw Analogyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051811184421446296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-71553515511602774932007-04-22T06:15:00.000-04:002007-04-22T06:15:00.000-04:00I'm also glad you had a positive experience with t...I'm also glad you had a positive experience with the therapists. It's something I'm working myself up to talking about to be honest!<BR/><BR/>It's also good to see you writing back on here as well as the other jigsaw analogy!<BR/><BR/>galrosgalroshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320177964048169054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-31399982478241605872007-04-22T00:15:00.000-04:002007-04-22T00:15:00.000-04:00Thanks for your support.I think there's "careful" ...Thanks for your support.<BR/><BR/>I think there's "careful" and there's "unwilling to take a calculated risk." Certainly, W. and I are quite careful as we choose the people we come out to about any aspect of our lives. But I've also found that it's very easy to fall into a habit of caution when, on analyzing the risks, it isn't necessary. I've got more to say about that than will fit into a comment, so I'm writing a whole post.Jigsaw Analogyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051811184421446296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-69061281034607451492007-04-21T17:47:00.000-04:002007-04-21T17:47:00.000-04:00I'm really glad that you've had positiveexperience...I'm really glad that you've had positive<BR/>experiences coming out as lesbians<BR/>and with telling your therapists<BR/>about spanking in your life.<BR/><BR/>I have always felt that gay and lesbian<BR/>people are my brothers and sisters <BR/>because spankos are also viewed as<BR/>deviants, although spankos don't face<BR/>as much organized discrimination as <BR/>gay and lesbian people do. Perhaps<BR/>after coming out as a lesbian being<BR/>a spanko is a minor thing. But<BR/>I'm still very careful and I keep<BR/>my sexuality separate from my<BR/>professional life. Some things,<BR/>like the gender of your partner,<BR/>can't be kept private. But I'd<BR/>keep private things private as much<BR/>as possible. The world is not a<BR/>very nice and welcoming place. If<BR/>you ever start to doubt that, just<BR/>think of G.W. Bush and the people<BR/>who back him. So I'd recommend<BR/>being careful.<BR/><BR/>Best,<BR/><BR/>WintermuteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com