tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post115241151791017893..comments2023-03-25T21:22:26.578-04:00Comments on Breathing In and Breathing Out: On a More Serious NoteJigsaw Analogyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15051811184421446296noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152920235040532862006-07-14T19:37:00.000-04:002006-07-14T19:37:00.000-04:00Hi Sweetie,Sorry I'm just now catching up on your ...Hi Sweetie,<BR/><BR/>Sorry I'm just now catching up on your blog... got used to not checking in every day for a while. But I am glad that you're back! As to the smoking, I've had my own addictions and spanking for punishment would never help for long, if at all. But what about Bonnie's idea? A good girl spanking as incentive... you could taper off the number of smokes per day that are allowed and ask W for a gg spanking if you are within the limits... could be fun for you both.<BR/><BR/>As to the need to hurt yourself, I do understand. That's an issue that I still struggle with and it never works to substitute self-nurturing... wish I had more original advice but I'm here for ya.<BR/><BR/>Big hugs,<BR/>TiggerTiggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13547847355311812871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152817657332350452006-07-13T15:07:00.000-04:002006-07-13T15:07:00.000-04:00Dyke Grrl,If spankings won't work as punishment (a...Dyke Grrl,<BR/><BR/>If spankings won't work as punishment (and they wouldn't for me either), how about extra special spankings as an incentive?<BR/><BR/>In any case, I wish you well in your quest. It's worth it, and so are you!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BonnieBonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152714945903554882006-07-12T10:35:00.000-04:002006-07-12T10:35:00.000-04:00Wishing you the best of luck!XOXO,KatieWishing you the best of luck!<BR/><BR/>XOXO,<BR/>KatieKatie_Spadeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08985772870653681791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152672287271856262006-07-11T22:44:00.000-04:002006-07-11T22:44:00.000-04:00Copper: I'm working through the internal negotiati...Copper: I'm working through the internal negotiations on smoking, and it's getting easier to go without the cigarettes (note: not easy, just easi<B>er</B>).<BR/><BR/>Haron: Thanks! {G}<BR/><BR/>Adrian: I totally agree with you on the wonderfulness of cigarettes as a medication delivery system; and, yeah, they're lethal (which was the reason I started smoking in the first place, so it becomes complicated to convince my darker side to let them go).<BR/><BR/>Katie: I do have the advantage, so far as quitting goes, of having smoking be something I *only* do outside, so I don't have to try to learn how to do things like watch TV or surf the web or write or whatever without cigarettes. Now, if only I could come up with a time-limited "time out" for myself that doesn't involve nicotine.<BR/><BR/>As for the gum, well... for a variety of reasons, I don't really chew gum, so that's not a great option. I'm slightly considering talking to my doctor about a prescription for one of those nicotine inhalers, but I'm not sure it's right for me at this point.<BR/><BR/>Right now, when I want the breathing, I've found blowing bubbles gives me some of the same physical benefits; plus which, I mostly don't blow bubbles indoors (too messy), so it gets me outside. We'll see whether I can convince my body to switch plans.Jigsaw Analogyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051811184421446296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152615520399293052006-07-11T06:58:00.000-04:002006-07-11T06:58:00.000-04:00I can so feel your pain because I am in the same b...I can so feel your pain because I am in the same boat and it is not a fun one. Everytime I seem to get so far I relapse and have had a few medical scares where the quitting of smoking has become rather imminent for me and I hate it... try the gum and exercise. It helps to take the edge off but one thing I find the hardest is being on the net because sitting here, reading and typing or even doing homework and writing papers, I am so used to smoking and it is so difficult. My thoughts are with you.<BR/><BR/>XOXO,<BR/>KatieKatie_Spadeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08985772870653681791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152582760704377882006-07-10T21:52:00.000-04:002006-07-10T21:52:00.000-04:00It looks like you're trying something difficult. ...It looks like you're trying something difficult. I admire your courage. As you point out, nicotine has physical effects, and part of addiction can be an ongoing need to self-medicate. If smoking didn't cause so much lung damage, it would be a *wonderful* delivery mechanism for anti-anxiety meds, because it's so easy to control the dose (people reach for a cigarette when they feel the need, and smoke until they feel better), and it's a built-in fidget mechanism. But the lung damage is catastrophic, as you know.<BR/><BR/>Have you tried stuff like nicotine gum? It tastes awful, but it provides the stuff some people need to settle the mental jitters. Sure, it's a crutch, but crutches are awfully useful.<BR/><BR/>If you're looking for a replacement for the go-outside-and-breathe-deeply in stressful situations without a cigarette, have you considered meditative exercises like yoga?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152436489977023472006-07-09T05:14:00.000-04:002006-07-09T05:14:00.000-04:00I have no advice, having never smoked, but I wish ...I have no advice, having never smoked, but I wish you luck, and if you feel like sharing how you're getting on, I'll cheer you on, too. {{{HUGS}}}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14914810.post-1152421891558613042006-07-09T01:11:00.000-04:002006-07-09T01:11:00.000-04:00I have been struggling with this problem ever sinc...I have been struggling with this problem ever since V. quit smoking last December - with many of the same issues you are daeling with, though not all. Children are, sadly, no longer an issue with us, but the stuff about isolating, and dealing with emotions, and self-harm, are all there (along with bad punctuation, sorry, ergh). I keep remembering, when in the depths, that V. quit when he was ready. Having dealt with "addictions" previously (scare quotes because I'm ambivalent about the whole concept of addiction) I know that you deal with it when you want to. And as close as I am to wanting to, I'm not there... yet.Copperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17264422568211112209noreply@blogger.com